To some this sounds like a fate worse than breaking up with sleep. And most mothers have done this, which is why we are so reliant on the black stuff, or creamy white depending on how you have it.

I understand, I am addicted to coffee.

I can go weeks without drinking it and feel fabulous, but then my mind starts telling me how much I need it for whatever reason: stress, boredom, or social pleasure, and I’m back brewing a cup.

Before I know it one a week turns to two and then creeps up to one a day. I almost had two the other day, but caught myself before I did.

I do love a cup of coffee. I find it a pleasurable and relaxing experience.

Which is vital for me to know.

It is all about paying attention to WHY you continue to reach for that habit. What need is it filling?

You know coffee is not all that bad, studies keep coming out how it’s good for you and then studies come out that it is not. Who do you believe?

Your body.

Listen to how it makes your body feel and then you shall know whether to cut it for good, keep it in small amounts, or continue to throw down 1o a day (Just make sure you have your sticky Spiderman shoes on because you WILL be bouncing off the walls).

I know that I can’t have a coffee after 2pm, or I’ll be awake all night. I also know that it doesn’t make my inner self feel light and refreshed. So I know I have to cut back on how much I drink.

I am not going to send my body into shock by denying it coffee for the rest of my life. I know that won’t work. One of my highest values in life is fun. Not a great value to have if you have an addictive personality.

I think I am pretty good at controlling my addictions (except for travel) and I know when to apply the brakes.

Coffee is a social thing for me and I don’t ever want to remove social from my life, but I can mix it up by substituting a coffee here and there with a tea or a nourishing juice. (ahem or a glass of wine)

Tips on How to Break up With Coffee

Take it Slow

You are kidding yourself if you think you can stop a habit straight away.

The intention should be to create a new habit. Habits take a while to form. So your new habit should be making conscious health decisions-not denial– but choices that move you towards optimal health.

Don’t send your body into shock, take it slowly. Decide to make one new choice a day, or week. Evaluate how many cups you have a day and scale it back one. After a week take it back another.

Once you are down to 1 cup a day then reduce the amount you have per work until you are either coffee dry or at a level you feel is optimal for your health.

Substitute with Dandelion Tea

Dandelion tea is a great substitute for coffee.

The taste is very similar and it is a healthy option. The roasted dandelion root helps to fight infections has a high density of vitamins and minerals and can cleanse your liver.

Reach for the Coconut Water Instead

I have a stack of coconuts sitting in my fridge.

They are so great for re-hydration and energy, and they give me so much pleasure–perfect for reducing the coffee urge. After you have some coconut water you will not care about coffee.

Exercise for an Energy Hit

The urge for coffee was overwhelming the other day, so I decided to take my focus off it by exercising. By the end of the 30 mins, I felt rejuvenated with a surge of energy, which mean coffee craving gone.

Just five minutes more or wait until

Tell yourself to wait five more minutes and then make yourself really busy so you forget, or the craving has had time to leave your body because your focus is not on it.

The Universe will conspire to help you as well. I had to drive to Newcastle the other week. I was determined to get a coffee for the drive, but the traffic was so bad that it kept diverting me from the cafe. I was running out of time so ditched the coffee.

“I’ll wait until I reach the twin servos on the highway.”

We reached the servos, Savannah was asleep so I continued on. Before I knew it I was at Raymond Terrace and had forgotten about coffee. I drove perfectly fine without droopy eyes, so realized I didn’t even need it after all that.

Focus on how good it feels

What we focus on we get more of.

If you focus on those good feelings of power and wellness then you’ll start searching for more of that. You’ll make better decisions and say no to coffee and yes to water and goodness more.

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Because then all you want to do is have a coffee and now I have to really focus on all of the above.

Exercise time perhaps?

If you keep following these tips before you know it you will have broken your love affair with coffee or just made him one of those friends with limited benefits.